I write this today because I have been engrossed in a legal battle for months now over the custody and mobility of my son Kieran. This has been a very trying time on myself, my son, and my family.
This all started back in around March 2019, when I asked my ex for permission to move with my son (who was in my care) across the country as my career requires me to move. To which she agreed.
I believed that this was all good and I could move, but things were not all as they seemed on the surface. Less than a month from me being able to move with my son, I was summoned to court on an emergency basis and I was accussed of attempting to leave without permission, that I was ‘kidnapping’ my child, etc. Mind you, I hadn’t even left yet, nor did I have a time to leave.
Court proceeded and over a series of months, and grueling, emotional battles I was able to not only prove what I had claimed, but I learned a lot more along the way. My son, who has been displaced since August, living with his grandparents as the Judge did not see fit for my ex-wife to have my son on a full-time basis, gets to move to me in January 2020.
What I told the courts was true, polygraph me, its true, I make a career out of being honest, being truthful, being trustworthy, the accusations against me were simply lies and it hurt me, it hurt me deep. But my faith in the court system has been renewed as it worked out. I have so much evidence to defent myself and my story that you simply would not believe. Perhaps one-day I will write a book about this, because this has simply been hell.. But I digress….
This however is a bittersweet victory, as I did not want to bring up my ex’s history, delve into her mental health issues, or her history with child protective services, which I had a small understanding of. And now I have a lot bigger picture. I did not want to hurt my ex by bringing all this up in court. Even after everything I still have compassion for this woman, and even with the win, I will still work with her to raise our child.
He deserves the best of both parents, and I am the best fit for him. His mother has a lot of problems and I wish her well. I want her to focus on herself and get well, I want her to improve her life, get a career, change the way she lives. Be self supportive, she is capable, so I want her to actually show that drive and be the best she can be.
I harbour no ill-will to my ex, and as such I hope she will be a proactive and positive role in Kierans life going forward.
But back to the point, Kieran gets to join me in early 2020, I have to register him in school, take care of all the normal parent things, get his room all sorted out. God, there is so much to do, so little time, but I am ready to hold his hands, face, dance with him, sing with him, play, my body is ready for this. It will be an exciting time in my house in January 2020. He will finish up one final week of school in January, allowing him time to say good-bye to his friends, teachers, etc, before he boards a plane with my Dad (his grandpa, obviously) and fly across the country.
So what will we do when he gets here, well, obviously he will get to spend time with his Brother Aiden, a boy he has only ever met once, literally a year ago. See my boys have lived across the country from each other their entire lives, my eldest being 12, and my youngest being 6. This allows me to bring my boys together, and completing my family.
There will be a lot of exciting times to come, much like the pictures below depict. We always had fun, always played, always. But for proof of fun, here we go on fun to come based on fun we had!
Its funny there are so many more good times I could post here, pictures upon pictures, upon pictures. We have had amazing times, Kieran and I, and we will continue to do so, a few provinces from where we had them last time. But our happiness will continue, a bright future will be had for my son. And for the years to come we will be happy!
I would like to thank everyone who knew about this and who has supported me, I would like to thank my Dad and step-mom for taking my son in when I had to move and leave my son behind due to the courts. I would like to thank my Girlfriend for her unwavering support of me during this time and putting up with all my hardships.
I would like to thank so many more, my work, my friends, the courts, and lawyers for seeing things my way, and having my back and ensuring my son would have the opportunity to have this bright future.
I love you all! Thank you so much!
It is not 2020 yet, but I am ready for this bright future to begin! If I don’t post again before the new-year, have a Merry Christmas, have a Happy New-Year. If you are wondering where I am, I am at home, preparing to have one more happy face in my house!